I know what I know - and I don't know what to not know. You know?

Dear Kristine,
Thanks so much for being there.  I'm so confused. 
Last week I learned the my boyfriend is having a sexual relationship with his friend.  A boy.

I've known both of them for a most of their lives.  We sent to kindergarten together.

I love my boyfriend, and I love his friend too - but I don't love that the two of them love each other. 

Not that there's anything WRONG with that.

Can you help me?  My boyfriend asked me to marry him two week ago.  He doesn't know I know what I know

You know what I mean?

Can you help me?  Thanks so much.

Love,
Twisted

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Dear Twisted,

I do know.  I know more than you know I know.

Here's what you do.  First - you make it clear to both "boys" that you know what you know.

Then, you make it clearer than clear to your boyfriend - that no, you will not marry him.

Give this whole thing time, little Twisted.

I promise all of this will be easier to take when you rest in it a while.

No one intends to do this kind of hard.  You are, all three of you, going to live a long, long time.  Let this period of your life be a pleasant time to remember.

Love,
Kristine